THE BEAST

Tommy Lee   and his ex-wife   Pamela Anderson   have issued dueling statements about who is to blame for the physical altercation that took place between him and their 21-year-old son   Brandon   on Monday night.

In a   lengthy statement   titled "Alcoholism Is The Devil,"   Anderson   said that   Tommy 's actions have been "desperate and humiliating" and called him "a disaster spinning out of control" who is "not acting like a father." Saying that the   MÖTLEY CRÜE   drummer has brought "a lifetime of disappointment" to her and their family, she claimed that she prays " Tommy   gets the help he needs" for his drinking problem." She also added that her sons "have made every attempt to help [ Tommy ] in recent months," insisting that   Brandon   was "does not want to see his dad in jail" and "just wants him to get sober."

Anderson   went on to say that   Lee   is "consistently the center of sadness, drama and confusion, jealous of his son's talent and beauty from the day they were born. He is sick. The definition of narcissist/sociopath."

She added: "I stand beside my son who acted out of self-defense and was scared for his life.   Tommy   feels humiliated — and is attempting to destroy his own son. This is the devil. This is the disease of alcoholism."

In   Lee's own statement , he said that he loves his sons, adding that he has "given them everything" he possibly could." He also confirmed that "the thing that started all this was   Pamela   going on on a barrage of interviews talking about the past" — including her own domestic abuse at the hands of   Tommy   — "right as soon as I got engaged to my fiancée, who I have a beautiful relationship with. The fact that   Pamela   would ignore my pleas for her to stop pushed me over the edge. I messaged her several times asking her to stop taking these interviews, that [it] was hurting me and the boys, and she would ignore me."

The 55-year-old also denied that he has a serious drinking problem, saying: "Do I drink more than the average Joe? Yes. Have I ever hurt my sons or acted out of turn with them because of my drinking? No. No matter how much people wanna pin me as this deviant alcoholic abuser, that isn't me. I'm a happy, fun-loving guy."

Lee   also implied that his extensive traveling during his days in   MÖTLEY CRÜE   contributed to the deterioration of his relationship with his sons. "Because I was on tour working, making money to pay for their private schools and their cars and their future, they spent time with their mother," he said. "She became the hero. And I've come to peace with that."

Tommy   once again refuted   Brandon 's claim that the older   Lee   was the aggressor Monday night. "When I stood up, he pushed me into a wall,"   Tommy   said. "I didn't want to hit my son. I never have and I never will."

Brandon   is one of the two children   Tommy   had with   Anderson , along with 20-year-old   Dylan .

Tommy   is currently engaged to   Vine   star   Brittany Furlan , 31, who was with him at the time of the alleged assault and placed a 911 call immediately after the incident.